on guidance
to feel truly guided
guidance in the age of aquarius
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decolonising the concept of “guidance”
what exactly do i mean when i talk about guidance, and most importantly how can we locate the guidance? was is this guidance about?
for me, when i think about guidance, i think about that whisper in my ear that helps me find out what my true “goal” is about and stay focused to get it. but i don’t like to talk about “goal” as this word has a lot of weight as in capitalist corporative narrative of having a “goal” aligned with more productivity and efficiency. and this is exactly NOT the kind of energy i want to share with you today.
so instead of goal i will speak about PURPOSE. so, again, guidance would be the intuition that guides me towards that purpose and also keeps me focused so that i can fulfil my own purpose.
a few words on purpose: we have all come to this planet with a purpose. and again, let’s get off the capitalist thought that a purpose is linked to a job or a professional mission of some sorts. this might be true for some people - it might be true that some people’s purpose is, for example, being a compassionate nurse and, you know, helping lots of people in the process. however, if we really look at it, the real purpose would be COMPASSION - as i am sure that this soul-being would fulfil their purpose also by being a compassionate teacher.
we need to dissociate the word purpose from a job and from a sense of PRODUCTIVITY or economical success. some people’s purpose might be to find joy in the simple things, and not have much. YOUR SOUL WOULD BE FULFILLING THEIR PURPOSE BY NOT HAVING MUCH AND FINDING JOY IN IT. that simple life would be absolute success for that person and soul being. for anyone who finds joy in the simple things is, for me, a very lucky one. on another note, if your purpose is for example to support people in their healing, as a psychologist or therapist of some form, realise that we don’t need to quantify this. even if you also support one person in their healing, you are fulfilling your purpose and that’s okay. it really doesn’t have to be big. in a 3D way, we are really small creatures.
but why should we care?
now, having clarified this, how do we find the guidance that will show us the way into fulfilling our purpose? and why should be interested in this? well, finding why you came to this earth for and walking that path will make you feel ALIVE and give you the sense of purpose we all thrive on. so this is basically something you would do for your own wellbeing and happiness.
as we are all seeing forecasted in the big screens, the system that has been built for humans to live in it is collapsing. the economy that western countries supposedly “thrive on” is causing major damage on our planet - it is clear that this project is not sustainable. and the ones that apparently say that are interested in the wellbeing of their people, well, we are seeing their lies coming up like an air balloon that was kept down the water and is now exploding into the surface. there is chaos, uncertainty and grief. a GRIEF for a world we all hoped that was possible, a grief for a humanity that seems to have been lost in too many places, a grief for a life we no longer believe possible inside of this system. we are made for more than just working and sleeping. the so-called matrix or trap of thought will make you believe that nothing but the machine of work-and-sleep is possible, however i am here to share that ANOTHER LIFE IS POSSIBLE if we create it.
and how do we create it? how do we create something that doesn’t really exist (yet)? it used to exist, maybe, somewhere, and i believe that we can learn a lot from indigenous tribes around the world. i also believe that the global movement of anticolonial liberation can also show us a way - into a world where everyone is free to decide for themselves and all humans are equal.
finding guidance now is not like before
when we have to create something new from scratch, like when we go through a spiritual awakening and our old identity and personality and belief system doesn’t really fit us anymore, then we need some kind of guidance. in past times, people could often rely on some kind of external guidance - gurus, shamans, artists… nowadays, everyone is a guru and a shaman and it can be hard to discern from the pure-hearted to the ones driven by greed and power.
so i believe that the only path is to find that guidance within ourselves. also because what could be right for me is possibly not what you wish for yourself. so we have to find our own path. since this is not always easy, i am creating space like our online gatherings where we can share about how we are coping with things and know that we are not alone in this quest.
necessary tools to get to know yourself
to find the guidance within we will need to be able to discern the voices of the ego from the voice of our heart and soul. in order to do this, i believe getting to know ourselves with tools like psychotherapy and shadow work can be really helpful. this can help us get to know the parts inside of us that are hurt, take care of them, and recognise when we are acting from pain and ego and not from our true self.
another tool we can all use, of course, is meditation. cultivate listening to your inner world in silence and you will get to know this world.
i believe that in the traumatised bodies we live in, meditation alone is not enough - as it can be used as a coping mechanism to avoid feeling our emotions or to isolate ourselves from the world. being spiritual is cool but not really if it means we are completely detached from reality and lack empathy, or if we are constantly wishing to get away from the density of this planet. so, let us address our trauma and unresolved pain or it will continue to haunt us, and it will prevent us from finding and fulfilling our purpose. unresolved pain lingers in our unconscious mind and it will control our life until we make it conscious. making it conscious means: we see it, we acknowledge it, we honor it, we feel it, we give it our love. trauma is like a black hole inside of our being and it takes a lot of energy to live after trauma and cope with the aftermaths of it - hence, we will be on survival mode, in a timeless loop, until we can face and heal those wounds. so, yes, i believe psychotherapy and trauma work are great tools on the spiritual journey, especially in cases of kundalini awakening where the unconscious is made conscious.
when we can hug our demons and observe ourselves in silence, finding out what really moves our soul will be easier. we have to know, though, that we are never really arriving anywhere and that hence the work of self-observation is never over, at least as long as we are humans. enlightenment is not an end station, it’s the next train we jump in.
when we stop doubting and fully surrender
in silence and in prayer, with faith and devotion, one day the Divine Spirit will become our body. it will rise through us and show us that we are One with the Source of All, and that this Source is Love. i am sure that maybe some of you have had an experience like this. again, this is not the end station - it is the opening of a portal, the beginning of a new life.
most of our bodies are not prepared to hold space for the Risen Spirit for a permanent stay, so this energy that has risen will retreat a bit. it will not be gone, but it will not be that intense - otherwise, it could burn our nervous system. so it retreats, and like the ebbs and flows, it will keep coming and going, until we become the ocean and the wave.
true guidance is not found through meditation - to know if you should go right or should go left is earthly matter, and while i am not saying that we won’t have to take decisions at times (we will have to), when the Divine Spirit FINDS US, the answers will arise like the sun in the morning — naturally, organic and at its own timing.
and so, guidance becomes surrender. to surrender to the flow of Life.
it becomes a matter of putting our life in the hands of the Divine Spirit, and telling to our inner God “my life is yours, take me wherever you want” and this takes a lot of TRUST, FAITH and DEVOTION.
the good news is that you don’t have to place your trust in the hands of someone external - as i said, we are no longer being guided by an external God or an external Guru or master. the only master we will have now lives in our heart. when we do the purification work of therapy, we will get to know our heart and the purity of it. at this point, trusting the guidance of the heart will be easier.
true guidance goes beyond the mind
so really what i am trying to say is: let yourself be found. open up for the love that lives inside of you. get your body prepared to feel the wisdom in your cells.
be patient. in a world where everything goes fast, some answers still take time. if you want to know what is best for you, throw the question into the grid and know that the answers will come. it might take one minute, days, months or years, yet eventually things will be clearer. and maybe it will take some humility, to know that we don’t know everything and that it is okay like that. to accept that we don’t have all answers answered and maybe we will never have.
with that humility, i bow to the Divine Mystery of All. control is an illusion. we are all part of a something bigger in any case, whether we want to believe this or not. our human self is a drop of water inside of a collective network of energy that knows no end. the drop of water has a say on its own composition but it cannot control the bigger currents that come from the vastness of space.
let yourself be taken from the Divine Guidance, and become that space. allow whatever is flowing through the Infinity, to flow through you, through your body and your mind, observe it with love. your body will then move effortlessly through this existence and you will know real peace and freedom.
thank you for reading, my friend.
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sara